Hard-ly Positive

Well, the Month of Affirmations have come and gone (as has last year). I don’t know how any of you are feeling (no feedback? nothing? I feel like I’m in a relationship!) but it all seems to have been wasted on me.

I went into the month with the absolute best of intentions. I cleaned my house. I bought (and cleaned/cleared) my crystals.* I bought a set of Louise Hay’s Wisdom Cards to have by the door – the idea was to pull one out each day and let it guide me.

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*My Crystals

Bloodstone: Centring and grounding. Brings mystical energies of increasing adaptability and organization, & lessening confusion, stress, & anxiety. Releasing blockages. Good for helping emotional traumas and grief. Good to have several pieces in the home to increase the flow of life energy.

eggsCarnelian: Stabilising, restores vitality & motivation, stimulates creativity.  It gives courage, promotes positive life choices, and dispels apathy. Overcomes negative conditioning & improves self-esteem. Improves analytic abilities, clarifies perception, sharpens concentration. Calms anger, banishes emotional negativity and replaces it with a love of life. Stimulates sexuality. Treats neuralgia & depression. Accelerates healing in bones and ligaments.  Improves vitamin & mineral absorption. Ensures good blood supply to organs & tissues.

Jade: Calms the nervous system. Cleanses the blood. Removes toxins. Excellent stone for the kidneys.

Malachite: Balance, abundance, manifestation & intention.  Amplifies energies of all kinds, both positive & negative. Absorbs energy and draws emotions to the surface.

Ruby Fuchsite: Balancing stimulation with intuition. Brings about awareness of problems of all kinds & use this awareness to find solutions. Helps one understand Love at a Higher level. Helpful with ailments where body functions are out of balance. Amplifying.

Unakite: Balances emotions with spirituality. Provides grounding when needed. Facilitates rebirthing, gently releasing conditions that inhibit spiritual & psychological growth. Supports convalescence & recovery from major illness.

Chinese Lapis: Encourages clarity & objectivity. Allows the release of stress bringing deep inner peace. Facilitate self-knowledge & self-expression. Helps overcome depression, lower blood pressure & boosts the immune system & the thyroid. Beneficial for alleviating migraine headaches & insomnia.

Blue lace agate: Gentle, calming stone that engenders tranquility and grace. Brings with this calm and tranquility a lessening of anger, even deep anger issues, and a calming of nervousness. Considered a happiness stone, as well as one of hope.

Black onyx: Provides strength & support during difficult circumstances. Alleviates fears & worries to help you to feel comfortable within yourself & in your surroundings. Promotes stamina & vigour. Encourages making wise decisions. Promotes self-control to keep excessive emotions & passions under control.

Hematite: Effective grounding stone. Inspires while keeping feet firmly on the ground. Reduces the discomfort of leg cramps & fractures, cleanses the blood & aids blood-related problems.

Pink Agate: Replaces pain with joy, heart healing and heart warming. Calms, comforts and provides security. Eases stress, promotes unconditional love for others and the understanding that you are lovable. Offers positive self-image. (I think everyone needs one of these!)

Amethyst: Aids creative thinking & spiritual awareness. Protective stone. Eases headaches, releases tension, relieves physical & emotional pain. Helps combat addictions. Reduces swellings & bruises.

Botswana Agate: Anti-depressant quality. Promotes understanding the need for deeper meaning. Stimulates the exploration of the unknown & furthers ones quest toward the enlightened state. Soothing & calming qualities. Encourages eternal & constant love. Great for achieving stability & balance. Improves mental functions & helps where issues of clarity and stability are concerned. towerAids smokers who want to quit

Garnet: Promotes good health & vitality. Enhances your love life & sex drive. Fortifies, activates & strengthens the survival instinct. Removes inhibitions. Bestows self-confidence.

Selenite: enhances mental flexibility and enables strong decision-making abilities. Lessens confusion and mental disorientation. A stone of truth and honesty.

But I just continue to be sucked into the vortex that is my life. I know I place myself in positions that I’m sure other people don’t have to deal with – I don’t know how I get here; but I do. I live in a RomCom…but without the happy ending (…so far!).

Now, I sit here watching TV while my housemate, who used to be my lover, and is currently my best friend, texts his new girlfriend (all night); after buying her lingerie while out shopping with me.

Oh….and, I got stood up for a date tonight!

It is so hard to be positive!

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To Affirm or Not To Affirm – A Question

lens18041543_1307890912question_mark_purpleSo, after 31 days of affirmations, are you feeling empowered? Reassured? Are you on the way to relinquishing your fears and purging your anger, predicting your own future and living up to your potential?

Or (and be honest) did you find yourself reading the affirmations and feeling all sorts of angry? Feeling forced into positive thinking?

Okay, so it doesn’t work for everybody: it floats some people’s boats and, for others, it has more of a torpedo effect!

Megan Bruneau, from MindBodyGreen, has created a list of reminders (call them whatever you wanna call them), that actually help her live her own best life:

  1. I’m imperfect, like everyone else, and that’s OK. My self-worth is not dependent on an accomplishment, number, or status.

  2. Life is filled with sadness, pain, illness, death, and loss. These are universal human experiences.

  3. Pain is out of my control. Self-compassion is in my control.

  4. I am constantly changing; my world is constantly changing; everything I experience (physical, mental, and emotional) will come and go.

  5. Being perfect is not what connects people. Vulnerability brings us closer together.

  6. If I knew I only had a week to live, I should ask, “what would be important?

  7. There are no “bad” feelings; however, there are unhelpful reactions to difficult feelings. Experiencing uncomfortable feelings doesn’t make something wrong with me, it makes me human.

  8. Playing is not irresponsible; in fact it’s the opposite. Fun is necessary for happiness.

  9. The longest relationship I’ll have in my life is the one with myself. Other people will come and go, but I’ll be with myself from birth until death. The sooner I decide to start being kind to myself, the longer I have to live life supporting rather than undermining myself.

  10. Whatever it is that I’m going through, chances are there are thousands of others going through a similar experience. We’re all in this together.

  11. To ask for help is not a sign of weakness; on the contrary, it’s actually a sign of strength and courage

  12. What’s the worst that can happen? Consider that question. Then ask: “What do I need to survive that?

  13. Things come together and fall apart, and come together and fall apart again. This is what life is.

  14. There are no objective truths. How I perceive myself and my world is flexible and can change.

  15. Acceptance is not about liking, wanting, or condoning. Acceptance can liberate us.

  16. Humans are resilient beings. I am programmed to heal.

  17. We have the ability to find meaning in our suffering. Sometimes it just takes creativity.

  18. What serves another person might not serve me, and vice versa.

  19. Realistic expectations mitigate unnecessary pain, disappointment, and frustration, and my energy changes from moment to moment. I put 80% in everything I do, sometimes more and sometimes less.

  20. I don’t have to “reach my potential” but I will do my best not to sleepwalk through my life.

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Basically, you need to do whatever it is that works for you. I will NEVER tell you what to do. I WILL try to give you some ideas to try: maybe some things that have worked for me, or even some things that haven’t. I love to hear what you have to say (although it may be difficult in this forum) and I always welcome your input here, on my Facebook page and with articles in LIVING WELL with FIBROMYALGIA.

I hope that you have all found something that is giving you, at least, a little relief this year; and I look forward to discovering new ways to help each other next year.

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Operation Affirmation – Day 31

Affirmations are a way for us to harness the mind’s power by directing your intentions toward our best selves and our happiest lives.

Say this phrase to yourself all day long. Write it down, email it to yourself, and post it where you will see it all day.

Love your day, love yourself, love your life!

Like this affirmation?
Get it on something you will see every day!

Say good-bye to the past and hello to the future:

Happy New Year

Operation Affirmation – Day 30

Affirmations are a way for us to harness the mind’s power by directing your intentions toward our best selves and our happiest lives.

Say this phrase to yourself all day long. Write it down, email it to yourself, and post it where you will see it all day.

Love your day, love yourself, love your life!

Like this affirmation?
Get it on something you will see every day!

Operation Affirmation – Day 29

Affirmations are a way for us to harness the mind’s power by directing your intentions toward our best selves and our happiest lives.

Say this phrase to yourself all day long. Write it down, email it to yourself, and post it where you will see it all day.

Love your day, love yourself, love your life!

Like this affirmation?
Get it on something you will see every day!

Operation Affirmation – Day 28

Affirmations are a way for us to harness the mind’s power by directing your intentions toward our best selves and our happiest lives.

Say this phrase to yourself all day long. Write it down, email it to yourself, and post it where you will see it all day.

Love your day, love yourself, love your life!

Like this affirmation?
Get it on something you will see every day!

Operation Affirmation – Day 27

Affirmations are a way for us to harness the mind’s power by directing your intentions toward our best selves and our happiest lives.

Say this phrase (another one of my favourites!) to yourself all day long. Write it down, email it to yourself, and post it where you will see it all day.

Love your day, love yourself, love your life!

Like this affirmation?
Get it on something you will see every day!

Operation Affirmation – Day 26

Affirmations are a way for us to harness the mind’s power by directing your intentions toward our best selves and our happiest lives.

Say this phrase to yourself all day long. Write it down, email it to yourself, and post it where you will see it all day.

Love your day, love yourself, love your life!

Like this affirmation?
Get it on something you will see every day!

Operation Affirmation – Day 25

Merry Christmas!

Affirmations are a way for us to harness the mind’s power by directing your intentions toward our best selves and our happiest lives.

Say this phrase to yourself all day long. Write it down, email it to yourself, and post it where you will see it all day.

Love your day, love yourself, love your life!

Like this affirmation?
Get it on something you will see every day!

Operation Affirmation – Day 24

Affirmations are a way for us to harness the mind’s power by directing your intentions toward our best selves and our happiest lives.

Say this phrase to yourself all day long. Write it down, email it to yourself, and post it where you will see it all day.

Love your day, love yourself, love your life!

Like this affirmation?
Get it on something you will see every day!